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Computers, TV time and towels
sandylegsntoes Apr 23 2006, 07:39 PM Post #1
I may have asked this question before and if so I apologize in advance.
What time are the computers and the TV's turned off in your teen group homes?
I think they should be turned off at nine PM but hubby has a different opinion.
The junior high teens go to bed at 10 and the high schoolers go to bed at
11...that means lights out. It doesn't mean showers, reading, choosing clothes
for school, etc.
I think if the computers and TV's are on up until their bedtime it only serves
to distract them from preparing for bed and school the next day.
IMO, I wish admin would make a new policy that group home kids cannot use
MySpace.
In addition, how do is the towel situation handled? You know that a teen will
use two, three or four towels a day. Do you assign them a certain amount of
towels a week?
webmaster Apr 23 2006, 08:12 PM Post #2
In our house the TV is only on for a few hours in the evening. It goes off 10
minutes prior to bedtime. Teens are responsible to be in bed on time on their
own, we will help remind Jr. High/Elementary kids. When we were in a B-mod
house that meant in bed lights out. In our basic care house that means Jr.
High/Elementary in bed lights out, High school in their room and quite. We
don't enforce an in bed rule on high schoolers unless they have trouble getting
up in the morning and then their bedtime is also lowered.
Our computers have timer software on them that prevents log ins after 9:00 PM
and before 8:00 AM. This is in addition to time limitations the children
already have. In our house it is anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour depending
on how old and responsible you are. Extra time can be given for homework
projects with an administrator password.
I am a firm believer in the concept of with responsibility comes privilege,
with irresponsibility comes structure and guidance.
Many homes agree with you on MySpace and have blocked it, ours probably will
when I get back. You have to realize however that when you plug one hole in a
colander water comes out another one, and so it is with the internet.
Our rule is one towel a day, except for the rare exception. We have a chore for
house laundry and every child that is old enough has a turn doing it. I don't
have a problem washing and folding towels so it don't bother me, but I have
only known a few kids that have enjoyed doing it, so they do a pretty good job
of keeping towel use down. Most know that if they make a bunch of towels for
somebody else to wash, they will surely to get a bunch when it is their turn.
I have also seen programs where the children are given a certain number of
towels they were responsible for. When they got dirty they washed them, if they
lost them they replaced them. In these programs all the towels were
numbered/colored so you could not take somebody else's and claim it as yours.
putkidsfirst Apr 23 2006, 09:22 PM Post #3
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I am a firm believer in the concept of with responsibility comes privilege,
with irresponsibility comes structure and guidance.
Absolutely!
As long as my girls meet their responsabilities then I am very easy going. We
keep our PC room open until chore time (10pm) and then only those who have
everything else finished may do a little more on the PC's after chores are done
and then at that time it is ONLY school work.
I use as much as I can as an incentive for good behavior and responsability. If
our girls do their rooms, and chores good, get along with us and each other,
act respectfully, and do well in school we are very easy going and very giving
to them. When they make poor decisions, act disrespectfully, etc. we begin to
structure that child more until they prove they no longer need that.
nmmommy Apr 24 2006, 08:11 AM Post #4
Computer time is limited based on their levels (we have a 0-5 level system). If
they are on the correct level, they can have 30 minutes of computer time.
Homework stuff is allowed on any level. Just got info over the weekend that
myspace is being blocked on all campus computers.
TV time is limited too based on level. We have to approve whatever they watch.
I'm more inclined to let them watch a sporting event (baseball, football, etc.)
for a longer period of time that movies, etc. Just my personal opinion though.
We haven't had a problem with towels so I can't really address that one. Each
boy does their own laundry including towels and bedsheets.
caring4kids Apr 24 2006, 09:34 AM Post #5
As long as my girls have earned use of the computer, bedtimeis the cut off
time--as long as they have finished their homework & chores.
TV has to be earned too. When the girls don't have school, I limit the TV to 2
hours per day until 7pm. After 7pm, if they want to unwind in front of the TV,
for me it's no problem.
As for towels... each person has 2 towels. Each one has a different color.
--Vonda
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