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Would you be offended?

momof10 Dec 21 2005, 01:14 PM Post #1

One of my houseparent friends have two children around the same age as their elementary kids. There was a Christmas party off campus put on by some donors. Since some of the residents were on home visits only 20 or so kids went and 40 were supposed to be there. The staff kids were not allowed to go. It only affected her two kids as none of the other houseparent kids were old enough. The mom said that her kids could have taken two of the spots of the residents that didn't go.

Would you be offended that your kids couldn't go to the party or just leave it be?

sandylegsntoes Dec 22 2005, 09:17 AM Post #2

One can choose to be offended but what would that feeling accomplish?

If one is offended by a behavior- or lack of -I would encourage the 'offended" one to speak with the "offendee" and resolve the conflict.

Offenses, real or imagined, intentional or not can be like a fast growing strangling weed. We must pluck out the weeds!

On a personal note, if there were open spaces and transportation wasn't a problem, I would have invited all the children.

webmaster Dec 25 2005, 11:32 AM Post #3

I suppose my level of being offended would depend on how clear the home's policy was.

At the facility I work at staff children are included in all Christmas parties but are NOT included in the Christmas Wish Lists sent out to donors.

I worked at another facility where staff kids were included in all Christmas activities and another where they were included in none. But in each case we knew it prior to being hired and could choose to accept it or find another position.

It is sometimes difficult when our staff children have to sit and watch the home children open numerous gifts at cottage Christmas, but my children also know that the home kids will receive about 80% of all they will receive for the year at Christmas time. My kids will receive stuff year round when we go on relief and on vacations. We are currently in San Diego, California spending time with my dad for Christmas and will go to Sea World tomorrow and have already visited the Grand Canyon and Petrified Forest National Park. Things that most of the home children will never get to do.

So it all usually balances out in the wash.

Lady Incredible Dec 31 2005, 09:39 PM Post #4

I guess I'm blessed because my daughter is always included in any party that happens when we are on shift.
When the kids get something that she doesn't tho, she understands the reason why and also understands that she has it alot better than most of them do or they wouldn't be here in the first place.
 

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