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bakersdozen|Homeschooling your own
children|63.156.56.79|yes|yes|1089323044|
Hi, My name is Chris and my husband and I have been houseparents for 10
months. We were called by God to leave our home and go into this ministry.
Having 5 children of our own (ages 1-9) we have had many ups and downs over
the past 10 months. Just the move of 1000 miles, leaving our church and
friends and the lifestyle change has been a rollercoaster! To put another
twist in this call, we homeschool. We always have and know that this is what
the Lord wills for our family. This past year did not go well. I try not to
be too hard on myself knowing that the Lord has taught my family so many
things beyond the textbook. I am now looking at starting a new school year,
and am looking for anyone else who homeschools as well. Any advice that you
have would be helpful. I have some specific questions, but right now I would
like to find out how many others are homeschooling, if any, and then I will
post some more specific question. Thank you for all who take the time to
answer this post. I know your time is valuable, and I appreciate you sharing
it with me.
webmaster|Homeschooling your own
children|24.117.29.129|yes|yes|1089342823|
My wife and I pulled our daughter from school at semester break last school
year. We home schooled her for the one semester. Her needs were not being
met at the Private school and we used that semester as an intensive program
to get her caught back up to where she would need to be to get back into
public school. I might add that we were in direct violation of our
facility’s rules, but because I was in the process of transitioning into a
new position and we were moving out of the cottage they overlooked our
situation. With my new position comes a new school district and she will be
back in school next month.
I would like to add, that with appointments, staff meetings, work days, etc.
It was a very difficult situation with our one child, who was in the 4th
grade and we were able to leave her to complete her work on her own on
several occasions.
I honestly believe that if we had to do it long term, it would be nearly
impossible to effectively educate our children at home while serving as
houseparents. I am sorry if this is discouraging, but for us that’s how it
is.
CaringCouple|Homeschooling your own
children|68.125.25.51|yes|yes|1089361144|
Just managing the care and treatment of 6 teenage boys is more than a
fulltime job for my wife and I with no children.
I can not imagine trying to provide an education at the same time others,
especially my own. Either the care provided or the quality of the education
would suffer and niether should be acceptable.
Good Luck.
bakersdozen|Homeschooling your own
children|63.156.56.3|yes|yes|1089394948|
Hi. This is Rob, Chris' husband. Whether to homeschool or not for us is not
an issue. We will always homeschool. Most people who make that life choice
do so for reasons I choose not to debate at this point. Many large families
do homeschool and succeed at doing so. What we are looking for is whether
there are those who have been called to this field and are committed to the
boys as well as their children's homeschool education. The God I know is
pretty big and where I am weak He is strong. I also beleive there is not an
acceptable loss, thats why we know that our success with our children and
the boys will come through God's strength leading and will be His will for
all of us. Thank you for your responces. We look forward to hearing from
those who are succeeding with houseparenting and homeschooling. God's peace
and blessings.
CaringCouple|Homeschooling your own
children|68.125.25.51|yes|yes|1089401846|
I was not trying to judge.
Simply offering an opinion that providing and education to your own 5 kids
has to be a full time job in and of itself.
I don't know. I don't do it.
But I do run a Group Home and deal with the needs of Teenage boys and that
takes most of both my wife and my waking hours all by itself.
I applaud your efforts. I just can't imagine how the care for the children
entrusted to you can help but be compromised by the needs of your own
children.
Good Luck to you.
beth|Homeschooling your own
children|12.145.87.131|||1089573519|
Hi! My husband and I are hps as well with 3 children 5 and under with 1 on
the way. We do not homeschool yet but plan to homeschool our 5 yr. old this
yr. I work with our boys (we have all boys) though on Biblical school work
even now. Our 2 oldest know more than most as they go into school. I don't
say this for any reason but that I don't know any other profession that
gives me AND my husband so much time with our children. Our children not
only will learn from myself but my husband as well! It is up to you and your
husband to set boundries with the kids in care. When they know that is YOUR
time I believe they will respect it. Our kids in care do.
I respect you for choosing to go against the grain.
Beth
bakersdozen|Homeschooling your own
children|63.156.100.12|yes|yes|1089576116|
Beth,
Thankyou, thank you, thank you!!
I am so encouraged by your reply. Although you won't be able to answer my
specific home school questions, I have been blessed by your desire to serve
YOUR children as well as those in your care. I can fully understand how some
people can't do this job with kids of their own, just the same as there are
people who couldn't do this job period. I respect that. But I also know that
my kids are not taking away from the care that my cottage boys receive. In
fact, we have several boys that were on their way out the door here until
they were placed with us. Our large family provides a strong role model to
these teenage boys. They see how we interact with one another and that we
treat them with the same love and respect. Your advice about setting
boundries between my time and their time is so true. We have done that, and
not everyone on our campus has agreed with us, but it is working. The boys
here respect my kids and most of them love them as well. I would do anything
for any of the 13 children we have. My husband and I work so hard at
teaching them how to be a family. And when you are a part of a family, the
"me first" attitudes disappear. I am not saying that it happens fast, or
that it is easy, but they really understand what it means to help each other
out. When we first got here, the boys were not happy we had so many kids.
They wanted us to spend every waking moment with them and cater to their
every whim. Now I have boys begging to be the one to clean the baby up from
the high chair, or bring the three year old into church or hold a hand
across the street or in the store. I have had 2 boys ask us privately if
they could be part of our family (neither has a family). We love what we do
and I believe with all my heart that our large family has done more for
these boys than any point system or reward system could ever do. How will
any child really grow up and know how to take care of a family of their own
unless they are taught? All the boys (and my kids) have expressed how they
love being part of a family with 13 kids!
With all that said, I still cannot forget that their are 5 precious children
that God gave me first. They deserve every part of me that I can give.
Homeschooling (although started before we began this ministry) is a way for
me and my husband to teach them and take advantage of that gift of TIME!!
All too soon they will grow up and be out of our protection. If I could keep
all 13 home with me, I would. My biggest oposition is the home we work for.
My phone never stops ringing, and their is always someone at my door. We
have expressed our concerns, and some changes were made at the end of the
school year last year. I think people here respect our desire to homeschool,
but don't really understand that it means time to do so. Attitudes are
changing, and that is a good thing. Now I have to re-do a lot with the way I
teach and what I use, so I am using my limited time wisely.
Beth I also want to be an encourager to you. My husband lit up when I read
your message to him. You will never go wrong with a big family. Cherrish
your time with them, for they grow up too fast. They will grow up with a
servants heart, and that is a great thing!
If I can be of any help to you as you start your homeschool career, PLEASE
let me know! I can email you privately with suggestions and encouragement.
Thank you!
Chris
beth|Homeschooling your own
children|12.145.87.131|yes|yes|1089736630|
Hey Chris,
Thank you so much!! Your encouragment to me brought tears to my eyes. Now
you can decide if it's the pregnancy hormones or my understanding of how
quickly our children grow up ( ;
I would love to get advice from you. My e-mail is mbgoins@bchfamily.org. You
cam e-mail me your address.
We are leaving to go off duty for a week. YEA!!!!
I will be back to this e-mail on the following Tues.
Thank you for your response. You seem like a person I would love to be
friends with!!
Beth
visionstork777|Homeschooling your own
children|65.1.77.59|yes|yes|1090071375|
I have found the A Beka program really good for homeschooling. I have taught
in public schools, homebound, and currently private.
bakersdozen|Homeschooling your own
children|63.156.56.29|yes|yes|1090411747|
Thanks Jay and Angie (not sure who posted!)
I have also taught in the public sytem and am in my 7th year of home
schooling. I currently use A Beka for language arts, and I really like it.
Right now I am not using a *boxed curriculum*, but I may need to go to that.
Thank you for posting!
kitarae|Homeschooling your own children|152.163.253.9|yes|yes|1092669871|
Rob and Chris,
Don't give up!! It can be done. I've been a HP for over 6 years. I have 8
boys in addition to my own four. I homeschool all four of mine and cannot
even imagine doing anything else. Our first few months, my two eldest were
in a private school. Bringing them home was the best decision I ever made.
My eldest is now shopping colleges, my youngest is only 5, but reading on a
5th grade level. YOU CAN DO IT!! It has been my experience that everyone
(even the boys) benefit because of my decision to HS. If you want more info,
please feel free to e-mail me directly.
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